June 18/2015

Its a routine we follow from the time my daughter started to sleep  by herself in her own  room. I read her two or three stories or poems , have some silly talks and recite our daily prayers . Then I will stay with her until she dozes off to sleep. We open up more closely during these routine exercise. We make silly faces, laugh at silly jokes and more often its a trigger for Samyuktha to share her fears and feelings to me .I treasure each and every moment of this time . At times these silly nothings really make sense and have much deeper meaning if you think that way.

If I do not write it down ,I will forget them. I want to look back at the memories and cherish each and every moment I spent with her . These might be little things. But,  "One day you will look back and realize they were the big things "


Bedtime Talks with Samyu #1
Another bedtime small talk with my daughter.
Samyu : "Mom, do we loose our sensitivity when we grow up?"
Me: "no, we don't..why did u ask?"
Samyu : " it was raining during the day, and the high schoolers were still playing football in the(school) ground . don't they know they are getting wet?"
Me: " Its not that their sense organs stop working ( she is currently learning about sense organs in class). May be they love the game they were playing so much that they don't care if its raining or not "
Samyu: "oh,OK,we friends were thinking they might have lost the sense to feel the rain"..chuckle..

These kind of small talks keeps me thinking (as always..)
In a sense, it is right..we grown ups at times lose the ability to be sensitive.. we are so busy prioritizing and planning our own lives that at times we become insensitive to others feelings. Or we pretend that we don't know..we don't want to know whether our words have hurt somebody, we don't want to know whether our (in)actions causing stress to somebody, we don't want to have a meaningful conversation ..everything is good as is. Why invite trouble? I am not generalizing, but some people just love to live in a fool's paradise !

-R.

June11/2015

Today I witnessed a heated argument /dispute between two ppl. I was not connected to any of them and it was not my concern ,and I went back to the book I was reading. However I couldn't help overhear them since the exchange was quite loud. The person who started the argument began in the highest pitch, being so rash and unreasonable to the other person. The other person equally firm but not aggressive, was explaining her own points. After the initial two minutes, there came a moment of realisation for him (yeah,we all know that exact feeling when we realise we r incorrect) that it was not going in his favour and he was in a fix , now that there were no comebacks other than total surrender. He started to mumble ,made some feeble attempts to prove he is right but in vein, with each sentence contradicting the previous one. I feared whether he will now start crying or not.. Finally he said, "see, kids sometimes fight with their parents, please consider this like that.I don't have anything against you. Actually the fault is with the process ..." I couldn't control my laugh and hastlty left the scene.
Lesson learnt:
If you happen to be in a situation where an argument is inevitable , don't start in a highest pitch. Start in the middle..Get the facts right and you see if your side of the story is worth arguing.
If you are right, you will have an edge, if you are incorrect , atleast you can make a decent retract.

PS: Few may ask, why dont we refrain from an argument itself . To them: True, but having a difference of opinion is common, we are all human,the rational bigger brain species that also has the capability to behave quite irrationally at times.

-R.